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Common scenarios of what your friends will say to you about success

Tuesday, January 26th, 2010

Some fine day, you will come across this. You tell your friends, family members and love ones about your goals, your dreams and they doesn’t seems to be supportive of it. Instead they tell you this :”Please get your soul back and come back to earth and be realistic and down to earth.” You feel sad, disappointed but inside you, you have this  fire, burning inside you that you can’t describe, now you are at a cross road, two ways, one is to give up and listen to them, the other is to go ahead and just do it, either way, you choose, it’s your life anyway.

In the following example, it is a real life example that I had gone through and I am going to tell you what had happened.

Most of my friends around my age, plus minus 1-3 years old, most of them have got a girlfriend, boyfriend, husband and wife. Mostly got married, have a job, have a house and a car. They have their commitments, that I understand. But now, here is the deal, they are in a different state of mind then mine. I am still single as of this date, I don’t have this kind of commitment and I would seriously like my mum to stop working in 2-3 years time. I want my family members have a good life ahead. My friends mostly are quite stable in that sense of survival and having a good family life and I am happy for them.

I am starting to have a very different thinking between them cause I believe I can achieve more for myself and I will not settle for the less than I can do. They doesn’t agree or even support the idea of mine and at the point of them, same thing, two ways, listen to them and give up or keep going doing the things that I had put in years to learn and master which I believe in the next 3-5 years, I will be more better off than them. One thing thou, I am not trying to compare between friends as that isn’t good thou. What I am trying to drive at is that if you have a dream, a goal, plan, take massive actions and go for it, if you think that goal is really what you want dearly for a reason strong enough for you to keep at it long term and never give up! It’s not easy and I promise you, it’s one hell of a road but the fruits is there at the end of the road for you to enjoy, are you willing to do it? Ask yourself many times over and if the answer is still a Yes, Keep Going and you will not be deny!

My friends are in a state mind of in a comfort zone and life will be like that for them as time goes by. I don’t want to settle for less, I believe I can achieve more than that and I am at it for more than 3 years now. I will not give up forever until the day I leave this world.

Give yourself a pat on the back as nobody else will.

The road to success is not easy always

Saturday, January 23rd, 2010

Being successful in your goals and dreams is always not an easy task. I have came to realize it on my way pursuing what I wanted in the long term. You need to have the following feelings:

  1. Faith
  2. Perseverance
  3. Belief
  4. Never Give Up Spirit
  5. Patience

It not easy to have all the above mentioned. There are too many things in life where it will beat you to the ground permanently, if you let it. One thing I want to let you know is, the bigger the obstacles, the greater the sense of achievement. Imagine you are just a seed planted in the soil. You try your very best to grow and break through the soil, you kept trying and trying and just about when you are about to break through, you give up and in that instant, everything is over. Once you give up, everything is over, there isn’t a need to say anything at all.

If you are trying your best in doing something and you fail, change your strategy and try again. A matter of fact, many people tried something and failed and keep using the same strategy. You can’t expect a different result using the same strategy over and over again, something needs to be changed. Being successful or not, only depends on the 6 inches in between your ears, that’s all it is. We all have the same mind, same body, same soul but the difference is the software running in the mind that makes the difference.

In your road to success, you need to humble and keep learning. A cup that is already full, no more water can be pour into it, you need to empty it before new knowledge can flow in, always remember that. Lastly, I would like to share with you a small paragraph of what Steve Jobs had shared in 2005 at Standford Commencement Address.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”